Chana Levitan's book is better than a marriage counselor: she doles out common-sense advice before the commitment to make sure it's done right.As someone who's been happily married to my best friend for 24 years, and still going strong, I know that getting married is the most important decision a person can make in life, yet there is little guidance out there for people.We can only respect a person if we are "looking at" and relating to who he or she is. She was frustrated and explained that she never had trouble opening up before. However, too much conflict is equally as destructive.And beware: infatuation blocks our ability to really "see." To check the "respect factor" of your relationship, answer these questions: · Can I see that the person I'm dating is different from me? · What are the benefits of marrying a person who has these traits? Can I respect and accept him or her with these weaknesses? Suddenly a light bulb went on in her head and she said, "Oh, I know why I can't open up -- I don't trust him." She was shocked by the fact that she was crazy about a guy that she didn't trust. While it's completely normal for a couple to argue, the question is, how much arguing is OK?"I hope you don't mind me asking, but I couldn't help but see that you're writing about love. "I Only Want to Get Married Once." "Too late for me," he replied.
But when they hit the different stages and challenges of life -- job stress, kids, parents passing away, and illness -- they didn't have a strong enough foundation to make it through.' Must' reading for young people, older people, dating couples and married couples, parents, in-laws, clergy and therapists... Abraham Twerski, author; former clinical director, Department of Psychiatry, St.Francis Hospital, Pittsburgh Too many people blindly stroll the aisle into marriage thinking they are madly in love, when actually they are blinded by infatuation.If you don't want to be a divorce statistic and are ready for a long-lasting relationship, this book's for you.In today's divorce culture, too many people have stopped trusting their ability to build a loving and lasting marriage.I Only Want to Get Married Once is a tool that will help single adults objectively evaluate their relationships and avoid the heartache of marrying the wrong person.It is also a helpful resource for improving existing marriages..The massive arguments that resulted from that one discussion led to a standstill in their marriage and, eventually, to divorce.Although personality differences can be worked through, a "values clash" is almost impossible to resolve.Now renowned relationship coach and counselor Chana Levitan reveals the 10 essential questions everyone should ask before saying "I do." Readers will learn how to: spot long-term potential; know the difference between infatuation and love-how they work against each other and yet how they can work together; reevaluate their approach to love and what they really need to succeed in building a loving marriage; gain the confidence to steer through the decision making process of dating; and more.Filled with real-life anecdotes and insightful advice, I ONLY WANT TO GET MARRIED ONCE helps readers get it right the first time.