These text-back times do not apply to weekends, specifically from Friday at 6pm to Sunday at 6pm. So never send a 'friend request' to a man you like.
There are a couple of other critical factors with texting: never, ever double text (write twice before he responds once) and always respond with fewer words than he's texted to you. ' you should write back: 'Sure, that sounds like fun.' You should not answer calls or messages after midnight, because you are busy or need your beauty sleep or, quite frankly, it's none of his business why. He will know you're interested and any challenge will be gone.
The premise of The Rules is that, as unfeminist as it sounds, a woman should do absolutely nothing to start a relationship.
The worst that can happen is that he will say yes and date you, leading you to believe that you are in a relationship before eventually ditching you for the woman he really likes - probably one who has followed the Rules. For example, a 30-year-old should wait 12 hours and a 40-plus-year-old should wait a day to reply.
More than that and the man is likely to be a time-waster.
As with every medium of communication, you should wait at least four hours to write back to a message and if you are 30 or older, wait a day.
It's more complicated than ever to manage your romantic life. Our new book tackles exactly that question - and here, in an exclusive extract, we show you how to handle texts, emails, Facebook and online dating...It's the equivalent of looking at you at a party or in a bar, but not approaching, and if a man can't even send an email to introduce himself, then he probably won't ask you out either.You want to go from online contact to meeting them quickly - within four exchanges, to be exact.Every person I’ve ever dated, including the man I married, I met in real life. Even if you know, for a fact, that you will never date any of your coworkers (which is probably a good thing), you never know who they might ask, from outside the office, to tag along. I don’t mean inviting yourself to whatever events aren’t “public,” but if you see that one of your Facebook friends is going to an art exhibit opening or a reading at the local bookstore, RSVP and go.Whether it was a bar, work (yes, bad idea, I know), or at one of the many media events that I used to frequent back in my social days (I’m exhausted just thinking about it! It's a great way to find out what's going on and to get slightly outside your comfort zone, without having to show up somewhere completely alone. Getting up and going out, especially this time of year, seems like cruel and unusual punishment, but if you’re going to meet someone IRL, you have to venture out into the real world.Consider handing them a piece of paper with your number before you get off the train. Consider volunteering for a cause you care about, and see who you meet.At the very least, you'll make friends (with more potentially cute buddies).Being heartbroken will actually help, because being so emotionally involved with an ex means you won't pay much attention to the new man - and are a challenge without even trying. Every woman we know who moved on quickly realised with hindsight that the man she had been pining for was wrong for her.Adapted by Catherine O'Brien from The New Rules: The Dating Dos And Don'ts For The Digital Generation by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider, published by Little, Brown on January 8 £12.99. Social networking means rejection can be broadcast to the world.An ex can announce the break-up on Facebook or that he's 'finally single' on Twitter.