Is it just me, or has the whole Christian dating/courting/dorting thing become really, really complicated?When Josh Harris wrote I Kissed Dating Goodbye, he had good intentions.He was reacting against the casual, recreational, aimless dating that had come to dominate the American landscape. But, as we are so prone to do, we took good principles and distorted them and distilled them into a series of unhelpful/legalistic practices.He was trying to help young men and women stop hurting each other through the endless hooking up, breaking up, hooking up, breaking up, etc. Dating/courting has turned into an elaborate set of unwritten rules which must be followed to the letter, no matter what the circumstances. But the reality is, you can’t slap these practices on top of every relationship and expect the relationship to go well.
Here’s what Mom and Dad’s blueprint for romance taught me: My parents met at the local community pool in their small town when my mom moved from Texas to Ohio in the summer of 1975.
She knew long before she met my dad what her standards were, and she wasn’t going to budge for him or anyone else. ” This funny story left an important impression on me.
He called and asked, “Would you like to go on a date tonight? Not only did it teach me not to accept guys who only want to hang out last minute, but it also led me to find someone who actually respects my time and boundaries.
Christians Pursue Community This principle applies to dating couples, just like it applies to every other Christian.
As Christians, we are part of God’s family, and we allow other believers to speak into our lives.