It is so important to have that talk as soon as possible and to continually update that. It’s also a way to discern what other issues may be at hand. If they are reluctant to show you their approved visiting list, is there a reason?During talks, are they more inhibited than you’d like? Do they talk about things you’ve never heard of or never thought to try before? Every bit of information is a clue to better knowing your potential partner. (I’ll probably be hated for naming this one, but it’s important.) Perhaps those names are your competition. Some families lacked closeness prior to the person coming to prison.Disciplinary records say one guard called her “bitch” and “that thing” and refused to hand her mail, instead flinging it at her in front of other inmates.She says most inmates accept her, but some call her “tramp” or murmur, “It calls itself Kristina.” (Geri, 48, a German-born transwoman who asked that her last name be withheld, is twenty years into a twenty-five year sentence for second-degree manslaughter.No subterfuge at work there, but the disparity between one’s daily clothes and visiting clothes is a clue. People pay others to write their letters, so they don’t appear as illiterate or poor with words. One benefit for extending your romantic options to include those who are incarcerated is that you’ll get a higher level of captivated interest and a heightened receptivity to relationships. There will be enough naturally occurring difficulties in developing a relationship, don’t let the above add to them. There are scammers and those with a limited capacity to truly know others on a deeper level.
They each described enduring long-term solitary confinement as a result of identifying or being perceived as female/feminine instead of male, the sex they were assigned at birth.Some want other things though, temporary situations with exclusive benefits to them. While patience, perseverance, transparency and good communication are great, here are a dozen additional points to consider. Know what you bring to the table, what you are lacking and what you expect of the other.This is about knowing yourself and your motives honestly.(Caution: the answer below is unfortunately graphic)I can't tell you from personal experience, as I meet neither requirement, but I did some research, since there are plenty of articles about it online, and, barring a transgender inmate posting an answer, that's probably the closest we're likely to get.The answer, unsurprisingly, is that it's bad, and that there's a lot we could do to fix it.I’ve been in prison for years with some people, then one day I see a photo of them in the free world, or overhear them with their family in the visiting room – and I’d have sworn this was a wholly different person. When all must wear the same prison issued clothes, it’s easy to fake.Most everyone has ‘Photo’ clothes and ‘Visiting’ clothes that look nicer than their other clothes. In here there are many ways to make money, selling artwork and the such, but another one is letter writing.You’ve decided to widen your options to include those who are currently incarcerated. Do you want a situation that more easily justifies your desire to go slowly?You’ve listed all of the pros and cons and have ultimately decided, why not? Are the restrictions on your time, energy, emotions and other areas of your life limiting your desirability in “normal” dating situations?While looking at it, see how many of the names say “family” next to them. People who have more support and connections tend to do better upon release, giving you and your relationship one less struggle to manage.If family relations are stable, when it’s time, ask for introductions.